Setting goals and pursuing what you truly want requires clarity, determination, and action. Like some of you, I write my goals each year and take the necessary steps to achieve them. According to a study from Dr. Gail Matthews, a psychology professor at Dominican University of California, people who write down their goals are 42% more likely to achieve them compared to those who simply think about them.
Put simply, to clearly define what you want to achieve – write it down. But what happens when you face a setback? Setbacks are inevitable in any pursuit – two steps forward and one back. Challenges, failures, and obstacles will arise, testing your patience, commitment and resilience. Instead of viewing setbacks as failures, try to see them as learning opportunities.
In my 30s, I set a goal to retire at a specific age – that age has come and gone. I had a significant setback in my life plan – and I had to adjust. Starting my own business was never a part of my plan, but last year I was at a crossroad and, upon reflection, decided that I could best live my purpose by stepping out on my own.
I recently spoke with Laura Best, founder of the Passion Collective, about passion and purpose. I see passion as the emotion that arises for a specific activity or interest and purpose as the reason behind this – your values and contributions. In reflecting on my purpose, I want to strengthen my community and organizations in which I work by empowering people, fostering growth, and leading with clarity and integrity.
Throughout my career and, specifically over this past year, I have learned that while good days are full of happiness, bad days are full of lessons and experience. Keeping purpose as your true North will help you in times of setbacks or conflict. The adjustment or change you make can broaden understanding – forcing you to see yourself, your situation and your goals from new angles. While my path to retirement was disrupted, the change in my plan has provided insights that sharpened my goals and priorities.
Getting back on track after a setback requires self-discipline and a renewed sense of commitment. It's easy to feel discouraged, but successful people understand that progress is made through discipline and consistency. Taking small steps to regain momentum—whether it's revisiting your plan, setting new short-term goals, or finding inspiration—can help rebuild confidence.
I’ve learned that you can keep going long after (you think you) can’t. It’s ok to stumble, to fall – even a bunch of times – but keep moving forward. The key is to reassess your plan and adjust your strategy, seek support if needed, and remind yourself of the intent of your goal.
Success is rarely a straight path—it's filled with detours. Setbacks are temporary but persistence is what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up. Goals may evolve—leading to outcomes better aligned with your values or purpose.
Three things to help you breakthrough setbacks and right your path:
- Surround yourself with supportive people
- Maintain a positive mindset
- Stay adaptable
These will help ensure that no matter how many times you stumble, you always find a way to move forward. And remember, the joy is in the journey.
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